tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post7733831951705692620..comments2022-12-12T10:49:47.419-05:00Comments on Patient Modesty & Privacy <center>Concerns</center>: Patient Gender Preferences In HealthcareJoel Sherman MDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15302609163683972129noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-20067472652990585052017-09-14T19:52:32.832-04:002017-09-14T19:52:32.832-04:00You have a right to go where you want. If your ap...You have a right to go where you want. If your appointment was with a specific doctor you can refuse the PA and come back later if your doctor was unavailable. Or you can make it clear when you make the appointment that you want to see a woman doctor.<br />The female physicians may be trying to work the PA into their practice or possibly for whatever reason they don't want to see you.Joel Sherman MDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302609163683972129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-76436896248975387442017-09-14T17:08:59.765-04:002017-09-14T17:08:59.765-04:00I guess I'm in the minority here. I've bee...I guess I'm in the minority here. I've been with my doctor for 30 years because they were all female which is my preference. They just hired on a male PA and as much as I refuse to see him they push and say no one else is available. Do I not have the right to choose my care giver?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-70039070333826832812017-02-02T17:17:55.851-05:002017-02-02T17:17:55.851-05:00I was hospitalized recently in Puerto Vallarta, Me...I was hospitalized recently in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico, and on the third day, as my doctor was leaving the room, she said she would send in a nurse to help me in the shower. A male nurse came in moments later. I am a male, so I assumed this was the reason he was sent to me. I was weak, hooked up to an IV and had some dizziness. Everything was fine but I was curious that the nurse also removed all of his clothing to help me. We were two naked dudes, but it was clear that he would have gotten all his clothes soaking wet had he not removed them. I can't imagine a female nurse would have done this with a male patient, so what's the protocol in a case like this?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-77188141004477500702016-03-28T15:52:17.063-04:002016-03-28T15:52:17.063-04:00Here's a very interesting article. from the W...Here's a very interesting <a href="https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2016/03/28/what-happens-when-a-manly-man-has-to-go-to-the-doctor/" rel="nofollow"> article</a>. from the Washington Post blog concerning male preferences for physicians and males reluctance to see doctors.">Joel Sherman MDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302609163683972129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-60558038664437102292016-03-19T15:32:04.393-04:002016-03-19T15:32:04.393-04:00Hopefully the hospital has some female aides or nu...Hopefully the hospital has some female aides or nurses on during the shift who could help your daughter. Most hospitals would certainly accommodate you. Not sure what union rules have to do with <b>patient</b> requested preferences.<br />However make sure your daughter is not frightened of medical personnel. Embarrassment is understandable but fright is not. Exposure to medical personnel is not the same as exposure to strangers.Joel Sherman MDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302609163683972129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-43935803314661358482016-03-19T11:16:47.412-04:002016-03-19T11:16:47.412-04:00NOT TO BE INCONSIDERATE, THAT WOULD BE TOTALLY OPP...NOT TO BE INCONSIDERATE, THAT WOULD BE TOTALLY OPPOSITE WHY I AM A MEMBER HERE. FIRST, IS YOUR DAUGHTER COMPLETELY LUCID? COULD SHE HAVE MADE A MISTAKE? IF YOU ARE POSITIVE SHE IS CORRECT THEN GET SOMEONE WITH AUTHORITY TO CONTACT HOSPITAL ADMINISTRATION, YOUR VOICE HAS LITTLE STRENGTH IN A HOSPITAL,I TELL YOU THIS BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE, MY GREATEST ALLY WAS MY CONGRESSMAN. I GUARANTEE THEY READ MAIL FROM HIM!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04790013457144918452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-39297426787742575862016-03-18T02:27:43.094-04:002016-03-18T02:27:43.094-04:00My daughter is nine and in the hospital and has be...My daughter is nine and in the hospital and has been for awhile. The other nite after she fell asleep I left her in the care of a female nurse. I returned early the next morning to have her say to me that a man came in and took her to the bathroom and wiped her. It scared her. I told the staff no more males to help her to the potty. The hospital has done nothing but tell me they can do nothing about it and keep saying crap about there Union will not allow them to say a male can't do that.. I am at a loss of how to go about what happened. She is scared when I have to go now so I have been sleeping in a chair for 2 weeks. I have voiced my concerns to several people and had several meetings and it's like they do not care to to there hospital policys can anyone help me Corriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12703549062747257825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-929065321563321522016-03-03T21:32:09.756-05:002016-03-03T21:32:09.756-05:00Hello:
The gender preference issue in the healthc...Hello:<br /><br />The gender preference issue in the healthcare industry is one that won’t be solved until men have the courage to step up to the plate and say NO MORE, we want same gender caregivers. And keep saying it until they get the message and change things for the better.<br /><br />Hey guys, the ladies have been requesting same gender care for years and getting it. Don’t ya think it’s about time we got off the pot and joined them?<br /><br />The medical establishment is banking on us guys not caring what they get and as long as we stay quiet, they win.<br /><br />No matter what ANYONE tells you, there is NO shame is saying I prefer my care while I’m at your hospital be taken care of by a male rather than a female. <br /><br />No shame at all. <br /><br />We’re not sissies. We’re just men who want our preferences taken seriously by the medical establishment like they do with women. <br /><br />Until WE get that thru our heads, and stand up for ourselves, nothing is going to change.<br /><br />We need to show the medical establishment that this issue isn’t going to go away until THEY change.<br /><br />Think about it. Do you really and truly want a female caregiver doing your perineal care or giving you a male related ultrasound or an enema or even worse a urinary catheterization?<br /><br />I know I sure don’t.<br /><br />The only way we can change that is if men start standing up to the medical establishment for their rights and just say NO MORE. I want same gender caregivers.<br /><br />This issue is going to stay on the back burner until people realize that men are dying because they won’t get the care they need because they can’t get male caregivers. They don’t (for whatever their reason), want to deal with female caregivers.<br /><br />Think about it ladies, your father, husband, son or boyfriend has an issue with opposite gender care and they refuse to go get the medical care they need because they know the hospital won’t provide male caregivers to him.<br /><br />You’re just going to watch him get sicker and die sooner than later?<br /><br />Is that what you want?<br /><br />Well that’s what is going to happen unless and until you stand up with him or for him and tell the medical establishment NO MORE. Our guys deserve better.<br /><br />We need to stand as one on this issue and say to the healthcare industry YOU MUST and WILL change this for the benefit of ALL.<br /><br />The needs of the many, outweigh the needs of the few, or the one on this issue.<br /><br />You hear doctors and nurses claim all the time they advocate for their patients.<br /><br />That being the case, ladies and gentlemen regardless of what your management says, you have patients out there in need of you advocating same gender healthcare for them.<br /><br />WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO FOR YOUR PATIENT?<br /><br />The healthcare establishment wants to sweep this under the rug and bury it.<br /><br />Are we going to let that happen?<br /><br />Only time will tell.<br /><br />Best regards to all,<br />RaffieRaffiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10711416188876253287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-73611930931070005612015-06-16T17:47:37.787-04:002015-06-16T17:47:37.787-04:00I still suffer ptsd from a molestation/rape when I...I still suffer ptsd from a molestation/rape when I was 8 by a male family member. I am very muscular now the gym was how I dealt quietly with my shame but every time a man touched me in the doctors office i have had to relive that experience and in certain terms re victimized. I prefer and in fact go out of my way to ensure I am not impotent on a bathroom stall balling my eyes out and fighting this rage, so I choose female doctors and feel I have to state these reasons for fears that I may be assumed a pervert. I had to have a cystoscopy administered for urinary difficulties with my stream flomax and other meds did not work.<br />We have 1 female urologist in my city ad she refuses any male patients. This left me at the brink of a ptsd rage as the litocane was administered and the doctor came in and injected the camera, which by the way hurt like hell.<br />My doctor is a great guy and outside of my emotional terror and anger he was quick and respectful and concerned for my emotional well being. I would still prefer a female urologist as I hate to be imprisoned by my past.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-64665762514402654652014-07-28T14:05:30.501-04:002014-07-28T14:05:30.501-04:00I wanted to encourage everyone to check out a new ...I wanted to encourage everyone to check out a new video by a man who is concerned about male patient modesty, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-Zgd-yh5Qs&feature=youtu.be" rel="nofollow"> Male Modesty In Healthcare Setting by Argh IMO </a> <br /><br />I really appreciated the white sign that a man holds over his private parts (you cannot see anything at all) around 3:38 of the video that says “This Area is Off Limits ….. Please Send a Male Nurse. Thank You.” This was a great idea. I think that this guy did a great job addressing how important it is for nurses to respect male patients’ wishes for modesty and male nurses.<br /><br />I really appreciate him encouraging people to check out Medical Patient Modesty’s web site for patient modesty issues at the end of the video.<br /> <br />MistyMedical Patient Modestyhttp://www.patientmodesty.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-65813321677874115412013-11-23T10:16:03.724-05:002013-11-23T10:16:03.724-05:00Thank you Ed. It is indeed your IMO that I am look...Thank you Ed. It is indeed your IMO that I am looking for.. I agree on every aspect of your response.. Thank you for reinforcing my own feelings..<br />Rich...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04790013457144918452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-46612608323157657032013-11-22T23:41:14.409-05:002013-11-22T23:41:14.409-05:00Who defines what the reasonable amount of time is?...Who defines what the reasonable amount of time is? Frankly, he can wait all day until you're able to urinate normally. I would never agree to being catheterized for a simple drug screen; it's unethical, unprofessional, and possibly illegal for a physician to coerce you in this manner, IMO.<br /><br />Ed Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-91217464548870119962013-11-21T17:34:49.719-05:002013-11-21T17:34:49.719-05:00This is a little off subject, but I would like an ...This is a little off subject, but I would like an opinion, or, a possible referral to an appropriate site.<br />My reason for my questions is, I am elderly, have frequent urination, and cannot force myself to urinate for the purpose of testing in a reasonable amount of time..<br />I have been on pain medication for several years, I have until recently, been able to provide a sample for the mandated testing for what I assume is the use of street drugs..<br />As I could not give a sample in a reasonable amount of time my PCP said he will have to use a catheter to get a sample or I will not be given the medications.. I have tried to stop taking these because of the problems associated with them but I could tolerate the pain and the withdrawal was horrific...<br />My question here is how ethical is it for a doctor to try to use a catheter for this purpose?<br />I know this out of parameters here but I have become comfortable enough here to at least ask...<br />Thank You!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04790013457144918452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-60778411801921700012013-11-20T22:26:29.810-05:002013-11-20T22:26:29.810-05:00I understand that in an emergency situation you ma...I understand that in an emergency situation you may not(most likely)have your choice of gender care. I think for scheduled exams you should have the option ahead of time(not when the person appears at the last second)to state your preference. It may not be always possible but at least you could be asked. It may give some proof as to the amount of people who actually do have a gender preference. <br />What is the point in choosing a male doctor if all the procedures you will have done are done by or accompanied by women. Totally defeats the purpose. I'm sure if a women chooses a female gyn they won't have a 20 year old male med student working with her.<br />I wonder how many lives would be saved if a lot of men felt they would not be embarrased by having females present during exams. Probably more people in a year than were killed in the 911 attacks. They spent a trillion dollars fighting for that and nobody seems to address this problem of a lot of men not going to exams because of embarrassment. There attitude is that's your problem if your embarrassed we have seen it all before so you should adopt our ideals even though you pay for our salaries. If any other business had such disregard for customers they would go out of business. I guess when your blackmailed by your health or life they have that power.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-32318910046468884312013-11-20T17:57:12.060-05:002013-11-20T17:57:12.060-05:00Olengrumpy, while I'm no attorney, I'm con...Olengrumpy, while I'm no attorney, I'm confident there is no law guaranteeing same gender intimate care in the United States. That said, you have absolute control over who participates in your healthcare and don't let anyone tell you differently.<br /><br />EdAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-22652250081323231442013-11-20T07:47:29.218-05:002013-11-20T07:47:29.218-05:00Ed..
Thank you very much for taking the time to ...Ed..<br /> Thank you very much for taking the time to respond to my query..<br />My most important question is, is there actually a law in place, (on the books) that provide for this demand of having male with male, female with female? .<br />If there is such a law in place, can you direct me to that law as I would like to quote the law in any upcoming visits that will require genital examination?<br />Thank you again for your time, and to others who have responded as well, I read every one of them..Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04790013457144918452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-41102740991787280532013-11-18T16:17:19.010-05:002013-11-18T16:17:19.010-05:00Olengrumpy, you have the ethical and legal right t...Olengrumpy, you have the ethical and legal right to choose who, and to what degree, someone participates in your healthcare and you don't have to justify your rationale to anyone. This includes the MD, PA, NP, nurse, assistant, tech, student, chaperone, observer, etc. With the exception of the ER, no one can be present or touch you without your Informed Consent, one of the basic bedrocks of medical ethics, that seems to be ignored on a regular basis because it inteferes with expediency and profit. Even if you had signed documents granting consent (i.e., teaching hospital), simply state you changed your mind. We're not inmates in the county jail but it certainly seems that medicine expects nothing but meek compliance; no longer in my case! The key, as Dr. Sherman mentioned, is the facility in question doesn't have to comply with your request. My advice is respectfully request, then insist, and if necessary demand. If that doesn't work, leave and go elsewhere.<br /><br />Ed Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-91335519415403905972013-11-14T21:20:35.473-05:002013-11-14T21:20:35.473-05:00The answer is the same as given above though a wom...The answer is the same as given above though a woman's request is more likely to be honored.Joel Sherman MDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302609163683972129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-25433257299501179172013-11-14T21:05:08.789-05:002013-11-14T21:05:08.789-05:00Thank you for your response. As a curiousity, does...Thank you for your response. As a curiousity, does a female have the legal right to have a female over a male?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04790013457144918452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-51202064667887654642013-11-14T19:28:59.422-05:002013-11-14T19:28:59.422-05:00Olengrumpy, there is nothing illegal about asking ...Olengrumpy, there is nothing illegal about asking for a a male or female caregiver. It is not considered an out of bounds request such as a request for a caregiver of a specified race would be.<br />But though you can ask, caregivers are under no mandate to accede to your request. They may not have a same gender caregiver available which would impact mainly requests for male caregivers. They don't have to give a reason. But I hope most institutions would grant the request when they are able. However these requests can go awry for many reasons and are not always fulfilled even when promised.Joel Sherman MDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302609163683972129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-73830096450046338872013-11-14T16:49:41.258-05:002013-11-14T16:49:41.258-05:00Tried to post this before..
Let me preface this qu...Tried to post this before..<br />Let me preface this query by saying how happy I am to see someone addressing this issue that I thought I was alone with..<br />I no longer want a woman to view or touch my genital area other than during an operation or ER situation.. Even then I'd like the option of a male..<br />My question has to do with legalities, and if I have the legal right under the law to demand a male when my genital area has to be touched in any way..<br />Thank you in advance and I'm sorry if I missed this answer..Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04790013457144918452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-2271821395245993172011-06-03T18:11:27.913-04:002011-06-03T18:11:27.913-04:00Regarding Alberts post about that commercial, it w...Regarding Alberts post about that commercial, it was easy to find.<br /><br />Here's a link to the commercial:<br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2PVeOq60GcAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-62572204354902792522011-05-20T14:18:21.211-04:002011-05-20T14:18:21.211-04:00Hello, everyone. I'm embarassed to say I do n...Hello, everyone. I'm embarassed to say I do not recall what programs ran the spot because I am an incurable channel surfer when watching TV, but suffice it to say J&J ran it during prime hours. I'm happy to report that you can view the spot on J&J's YouTube channel. It is part of their "Campaign For Nursing's Future."<br /><br />Doug, my computer skills are pretty much limited to point and click. I could not find an E-mail address for J&J and I fully agree with you that J&J is entitled to hear our gratitude for putting the male nurse front and center. It was also not lost on me the wonderful empathy displayed by the nurse in this spot, and that it was a young girl being tended to.<br /><br />These issues speak to the very core of what your blog is trying to accomplish. Not only is there a dire need for male nurses, there is also a dire need to bring back to speed the nurturing empathy in our nursing corps, something which is so vital to patient care, and something that has been so badly ravished by boundary and time restrictions.<br /><br />Talk to you later. There are a couple of other spots on the J&J YouTube channel that I haven't seen. That's about to change.<br /><br />AlbertAlbertnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-37218965525194512032011-05-19T22:50:20.807-04:002011-05-19T22:50:20.807-04:00Nice find Albert. I haven't seen the commerci...Nice find Albert. I haven't seen the commercial yet. Can you tell us what show you were watching?Joel Sherman MDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302609163683972129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2752793986869193186.post-11571622708691026992011-05-19T22:28:33.132-04:002011-05-19T22:28:33.132-04:00Great note, Albert. Now, what needs to be done is ...Great note, Albert. Now, what needs to be done is this: Spread the word. Make sure that Johnson and Johnson gets as many hundred/thousand letters from men in general, their significant others, nurses of both genders. Let them know that what they're doing is well appreciated. That's part of that longest journey. We need to start taking the second and third steps.Doug Caprahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15722777627862939708noreply@blogger.com